Wednesday, October 16, 2013

A Wise Mother's Perspective

Sage advice from Mika, mother of five (three of them triplets).  This was the conclusion of a post Mika offered in response to another mother's request for advice, which appeared on the online parenting forum Twins by the Bay. 


If my kids go to bed without any major injuries, whether or not they may be still a little hungry, miss the bath (again), and hair tangled up still like characters in the movie, Croods, I told myself that I did a good job.  I just cannot be a super mom, who can clean a house well, cook amazing meals, look over kids homework perfectly, dress them neatly, and discipline my kids to be perfect.  Instead, I thank to the day if no one gets hurt, and everyone go to bed relatively happy.  This is still my daily goal.  
Also, though so busy and hard, I try to capture a brisk moment to tell kids that I love them.  It may be when they come to a kitchen to get a spoon for cereals, or are changing their clothes.  I just whisper to their ears that I really love them, and I am happy that they came to our lives.  Often this helps me remember how I felt when I found out about being pregnant with our trio, how I felt when I first became pregnant with my first son after series of miscarriages, and how happy I was when I became pregnant with my second son after another loss too.  They are giving me the kind of experience so unique to me that everyday feels like a roller coaster ride.  

-Mika

mom of Kai, highschool freshman, why... why....???
Tomo, 5th grader, who loves Math so much so that he forgot about the fact that writing is also important.
Aya, 6 years old, caring, lovely, and amazingly athletic
Koto, 6 tears old, who loves books, princesses, and being love with so many of his class mates.
Naoto, 6 years old, keen man, who loves to explain about the world from his unique observation.

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